Surrogates
10 Tips for First-Time Surrogates
November 20, 2024 · 6 min read · On Fertility Ground Surrogacy
Embarking on your first surrogacy journey is exciting and sometimes overwhelming. Here are tips from surrogates who've been there to help you feel prepared and confident.
1. Be Honest in Your Application
Complete transparency about your medical history, lifestyle, and expectations ensures a better match and smoother journey.
2. Communicate Openly with Your Partner and Family
Make sure your support system understands and supports your decision. Their involvement is crucial.
3. Set Clear Boundaries Early
Discuss with your intended parents what level of contact and involvement you're comfortable with during and after pregnancy.
4. Take Care of Your Mental Health
Surrogacy is emotionally complex. Take advantage of counseling services and support groups offered by your agency.
5. Stay Organized
Keep track of appointments, medications, and important documents. A dedicated calendar or app can help.
6. Build a Relationship with Your Intended Parents
The journey is more meaningful when you feel connected. Regular communication builds trust and makes the experience better for everyone.
7. Prepare for the Physical Demands
IVF medications and pregnancy take a toll. Prioritize rest, nutrition, and gentle exercise.
8. Plan for Time Off Work
Discuss with your employer and agency how to handle appointments and potential bed rest.
9. Document Your Journey
Many surrogates find journaling or creating a pregnancy book for the intended parents to be rewarding.
10. Trust the Process
There will be ups and downs. Lean on your agency, support system, and intended parents when things feel challenging.